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Jun 17Edited

Thank you for mentioning the children whose mother didn't want (or as you put it "weren't ready") for them.

What about those unwanted children?

I'm one of them and my life has been a hell for over 65 years - abused endlessly by my mother for my existence.

No one validates us unwanted children. Few even believe it because of the myth that all mothers are saints that love, care for and like their children. If I ever dared to tell anyone about my abuse, the response was "Not your mother. She loves you." Yeah, well I've had enough shrinks and lately eye opening to know that is just not the case.

Show up at any of my graduations - no. Humiliating and embarrassing to say the least, with all the families there celebrating and cheering their loved ones. Check with me to see how that biopsy came out - nope. Not provide clothing or food when I was a child even though you are very well off financially - that's her. Why do you think I'm childless? Who would bring a child into an abusive situation or who could brainwashed to think they are horrible, ugly, unloveable people. I could go on endlessly with the evil things she has done to me. But I, nay we abused, are invisible to society.

The most painful thing is to be abused in a way that destroys all areas of your life and to have no one acknowledge what you have been through.... And yes, I know, none of you with loving mothers want to hear about this. And so the abuse will continue for future unwanted unloved children whose lives will be destroyed.

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Sheila (of Ephemera)'s avatar

I have so much caring and love, guidance and wisdom, for all of the people in my life. I don’t require kids to be fulfilled. Great article, thank you!

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